I am not an anarchist

May. 19th, 2025 10:39 pm
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There are labels that I gladly accept and others that I reject.

For instance:

  • I am not a Democrat. Not since Bernie got sidelined the first time.
  • I am a progressive. Meaning I want continuing improvements in response to new empirical knowledge.
  • I am #antifa. And you should be too.
  • I am not an anarchist.

I should explain that last label, given my longstanding criticism of so many things here in the USA. I want great changes in government and economic structures, yes, but I still want structures. Anarchism has the debatably-laudable goal of making individuals each responsible for all outcomes. It plans to accomplish that goal, thanks to elimination of all hierarchy as a form of coercion. Afterwards, individuals and their choices would be all that matters.

I've recommended the book "The Nature of Economies" by Jane Jacobs many times over the years. It uses easy ecological metaphors to teach ideas that are more complex. I propose a biological metaphor for understanding proposed anarchy. Show me the creature that was formerly a multicellular organism of specialized cells (requiring hierarchy of its own sort) that later backtracked to eliminate that specialization, where each cell becomes master of itself and must negotiate with other cells as equals. Show me how evolution has proved that simplification strategy as more adaptable than advanced specializations, then I'll believe that anarchism is viable at our level too. It seems at first glance, at least, that Mother Nature prefers constant change and reorganization, not mere simplification.

"You've got that eternal idiotic idea that if anarchy came it would come from the poor. Why should it? The poor have been rebels, but they have never been anarchists; they have more interest than anyone else in there being some decent government. The poor man really has a stake in the country. The rich man hasn't; he can go away to New Guinea in a yacht. The poor have sometimes objected to being governed badly; the rich have always objected to being governed at all. Aristocrats were always anarchists."
- G.K. Chesterton

I still believe in the beauty of complex systems, and I still believe in the possibility of their actually serving the long-term needs of constituent components.

Frustration

May. 19th, 2025 10:25 pm
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Got up at 10:00 and had breakfast, and coffee. Showered and dressed, and called [personal profile] mashfanficchick. We decided ze was going to come over and help me with the turtle tank, getting the python that I paid $50 for set up.

That requires attaching it to the kitchen sink, and that requires unscrewing the tip of the spigot. I suggested ze bring a wrench to do that.

Stuff happened and it took zer quite a few hours to get here. Meanwhile I did various small things. One thing that happened was that, I decided to hang up (instead of leaning it against a row of books) the small plaque that I have which Oldest Brother gave me that says "A sister is the best friend you can have". And the tack I used to hang it didn't hold and it fell behind one of my bookcases. I had to move the bookcase out from the wall to retrieve it. Thankfully it did not break. I would have been devastated. The bookcase was hard to move, and I couldn't quite get it into the right position when I moved it back.

I'm going to get some Command hooks and use them to hang it.

Anyway, [personal profile] mashfanficchick finally got here, and the first thing we did was try if zer wrench would work on the spigot. It did not. It was too small. So after we discovered that, we decided to take my laundry down (I had gotten it together already) and stop at the discount store and buy something to try and get the spigot unscrewed. So we took the laundry down, and on the way back bought a set of pliers.

To make a long story short they did not work. We were totally unable to unscrew the spigot. We tried the bathroom one too, also a no go.

So we gave up on that and went out to eat. We walked to Main Street, and then to Prince Street, checked out a lot of restaurants and finally decided on a little noodle house. It was quite good.

Then we walked back to Union Street and I waited for the 44 bus with zer, and then came back home.

The FWiB has not gotten his computer fixed yet, so we phoned again. Very nice time.

Then it was pet feeding time, so I fed the pets, and am now doing this.

Not sure what I'll do about the turtle tank, but I'm going to try getting another tool when I have a chance. Not tomorrow, I'm going to be out of the house all day,

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. [personal profile] mashfanficchick.

3. My plaque did not break.

4. Clean laundry soon.

5. Nice walk in lovely weather.

6. Good dinner.

Edited to add: Forgot to say I had a long text conversation with the Kid. All is well.

henlo.

May. 19th, 2025 08:47 pm
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I rewatched Rogue One for the first time since I originally saw it in the cinema, obviously inspired by Andor, and curious whether two seasons of an excellent prequel to a prequel would make a difference. In the grand scheme of things, it didn't - I liked the film then, I still do, with a few exceptions, I'm not interpreting things very different from when I was newly introduced to (most of) these characters. I'm still irritated by the same plot element in the opening sequence , possibly even more so post Andor- spoiler cut just in case ). I still like and appreciate pretty much everything else. Then as now, I feel the movie is a love letter to all redshirts, and far more original and creative than the one sequel movie which was already released by the time Rogue One premiered, The Force Awakens, because instead of modelling itself on A New Hope and repeating the exact some emotional and plot beats, it told an actually new story within the SWverse.

There are a few differences seeing this for the second time and post Andor does make for me:

- Jyn Erso no longer feels like the main character, Cassian does, with Jyn only guest starring, so to speak

- the delighted shock at the appearance of Saw Guerrera (not so much for Saw's sake but for the fact that up to this point, he had been an animated Clone Wars character, and if he was now big screen canon, then so was Ahsoka) made room for a more spoilery reaction )

- I like the Rogue One only (i.e. not appearing in Andor) characters of Bodhi, Chirrup and Baze a lot and in retrospect Bodhi especially forshadows Team Gilroy's ability to create nuanced imperial defectors/undercover-for-the-rebellion people who with not much screen time still make me feel a lot for them (see also Lonni Jung, or even just the maintenance worker Cassian interacts with in the first episode of s2)

- the way fascism works on a dog-eats-dog basis, with groveling towards those above you and kicking downwards, is really perfectly illustrated if you contrast Krennic in this movie (where we mostly see him with people who outrank him, like Tarkin and Vader) versus Krennic in the show (where we exclusively see him with people he outranks, like Dedra and Partagaz)

- yep, the digitally recreated counterparts of Peter Cushing and Carrie Fisher still look creepy, and Andor with Bail Organa proves you can successfully recast if an actor (for whichever reason) isn't available anymore

- I stand by my observation from my original review that the fact Rogue One as a prequel could not show the Death Star destroying a planet (since Alderaan has to remain the first occasion this happens) was a blessing, because what it shows instead - spoilery in nature ) is way more viscerally frightening, only now I think Tony Gilroy might have shown that restraint even without the prequel factor, because the Ghorman arc in s2 illustrated he and his creative team are very very aware of how you buld up to, execute and then show the aftermath of such an event in a way that really affects the audience. (Meanwhile, The Force Awakens went completely into the opposite direction and tried to top the one destroyed planet with multiple destroyed systems and no emotional resonance whatsoever.)

Some more thoughts about Jyn: Which are spoilery. )

What Rogue One and Andor between them accomplished for good, though, is to realign the whole focus of the Rebellion era in SW from the force wielding Jedi and Sith characters to the non-force users (Chirrup's belief in the Force notwithstanding), and thereby making it feel far more of a story about Revolution versus Authoritarianism. This doesn't mean I disdain the Jedi and Sith aspects of the story now, btw. Or that I think the only valid SW has to be like Andor. As mentioned elswhere, I adored Skeleton Crew*, which is defiantely aimed at kids and about them, and which is just as much SW. But I am really really glad there is room for both.

*Speaking of which, I hear one young actress is now the new central Slayer in the BtVS sequel? On the one hand, good for her, she was great in Skeleton Crew, otoh, I guess that means it remains a miniseries without a second sason.....

Greek festival

May. 18th, 2025 10:17 pm
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Woke up at 9:00 because I forgot to reset my alarm from yesterday, but I didn't get up til 10:00. Then I had breakfast, and coffee, and showered and washed my hair. Then I got dressed and called [personal profile] mashfanficchick and told zer that I was heading for the St Nicholas Church Greek festival, and would ze like to meet me there?

Ze agreed, so I headed out. It was a smaller festival than I expected, but quite sufficient. I started by going to the flea market, where I got a small glass animal for my collection, and a plastic recorder, identical to the one I got in grade school, that I treasured for years and then got broken.

I walked around the rest of the festival, and got a baklava while I waited for [personal profile] mashfanficchick. I watched a very cute young priest who was taking care of an adorable toddler (nephew maybe?) and that occupied my time. Eventually ze got there and we had lunch in the food tent. I got an absolutely scrumptious gyro sandwich, and a pina colada.

Then we walked around the festival together, starting with the flea market again, where I got something I had been thinking of getting for the Kid for Christmas.

Then we split up and I took the bus home. By then it was close to 5:30, and I was tired, didn't take a nap but lay down and rested until 7:00 when the FWiB and I tried to Team. Something bad happened to his computer though. It's not working at all, and he's going to have to take it to the Apple store. We had our nightly communication by phone instead, which is unsatisfying.

At 8:30 I called Middle Brother, he's doing fine, looking forward to Memorial Day, and had been to Target and 7'11 yesterday.

After that I called the Kid and talked a little, she was in Manhattan celebrating her birthday,

Then I did a few random chores, and finally it was pet feeding time.

I talked yesterday with Robyn, and she is going to bring Oldest Brother's ashes to me at [personal profile] mashfanficchick's place on Tuesday. I also have my gyno appointment that day, so it will be a bit complicated, but I'll manage.

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. Middle Brother is well.

3. Fun time at the Greek festival.

4. Baklava.

5. Clean hair.

6. Getting the ashes back.

theme song: Otter's Cozy Cafe Vibes

May. 18th, 2025 07:48 pm
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Today's theme song is just mood music for background play. No words, just soft jazz music and the image of an otter as barista at a coffee shop.

Why this choice today? It was shared amongst coworkers on Friday, and I just learned of it today. My supervisor also sent me a message that May 15 Friday was my 2-year anniversary at work, but I was away as part of my "weekend" schedule at the time, returning today as my "Monday". This song is meant to help provide a calming counterbalance to what I've complained for 2 years is a highly stressful job position. As evidence of this stress, I learned today that the guy I trained in October for this job is moving back to his old job. So, after half a year he decided that his former department was better for him. I'm sorry that he didn't want to stick around, but at least he's still staying with the university.

Click to read an itemized example of why this job is stressful...

Why is this job so unusual, so stressful? It's different from any tech job I've had before. People call a phone number, expecting to get the experts in whatever topic they selected. Instead, they get me. Questions that I might have to answer at a moment's notice:

  • "I'm a customs officer at airport [x]. Please connect me (not during regular work hours) to the Designated School Official who can provide I-20 confirmation. No, I can't wait for a callback. I need to stay on the line to maintain the authentic connection. If I can't confirm, then I'll send the student back to their country of origin." (I wrote documentation for my coworkers on this rare but high-stress phone call.)
  • "How do I install and/or purchase software title [x] on this computer?" (The answer is different for every software title and every department or computer, resulting in permutation explosion on not-well-documented processes.)
  • "Someone has been sending me email, but I don't see them. What's wrong? No, I don't know if I'm using new Outlook, classic Outlook, or web Outlook. I just click this button. How do I tell which browser I'm using?"
  • "Hi, I'm UPS delivery. Where should I drop off this package (after regular work hours) for person [x]?"
  • "Please connect me to the coach of the sports team [x]. I don't know why you can't do that. What's so hard to find their number?"
  • "Why is TicketMaster not getting me my football tickets?" (Usually, this problem results from somebody requesting tickets before they were even assigned their university email, so TicketMaster has wrong email information.)
  • "I'm not computer literate, can you help me fix my multifactor authentication?"
  • "I can't get into building [x]. Who can let me in (after regular work hours on a weekend)?"
  • "Why is the Microsoft portal insisting that I install Copilot right now and not letting me just view my email?"
  • "I submitted my course assignment in Canvas, but now I'm getting a zero because my work is not there! What happened to it?" (We're the support team for a product that we never use unless we get a ticket for it.)
  • "I got a new phone, and now I can't login for class, I can't get into my dorm room, and I can't pay for food on campus. Help!"
  • "My Adobe Acrobat interface is messed up, not looking like it should. How do I get the old interface back?" (We're the support team for a product that we don't even have licenses to run.)
  • "I uploaded an image to Copilot, to make it generate accessibility captions, but the image shows up as black so I get no text from it. What's wrong?" (We're the support team, I think?, for a product that nobody knows how to use.)
  • "How do I export my list of subscribers from Listserv?" (We're the support team for a decades-old product that we don't use unless we get a ticket for it.)
  • It's always interesting getting stuck between an overbearing parent and a child who doesn't want the parent to access their information, while the parent demands we help them access the student information. Paying bills and seeing grades are different systems with different permissions, and either way there's not a lot I can do to help (but sometimes yes), even though people call us first.
  • While answering the phone line, I might simultaneously get a webpage chat wanting immediate attention, and I need to at least click a button to acknowledge incoming emailed tickets too. Fast-paced context-switching destroys productivity, you say? Surely not! ;)

Basically, we're the 311 information line for a city (over 100,000 students, faculty, and staff). At some point, we get every question... including wrong calls meant for a similarly-named university or a related-to-the-university healthcare system. We get calls meant for other departments but come to us first. We get calls for areas with VIP lists who want different treatment. It's permutation explosion for everything, no perfect documentation for it, and callers reached me expecting to find the expert on whatever topic is at hand, so they get frustrated when I hesitate.

So, I've mentioned for 2 years how stressed out I get, I'm losing my trainee to his old job soon, and coworkers shared this nice stress-relieving music for jazzy vibes.

Enjoy the music. Peace. :)

GIP: I need a nap

May. 18th, 2025 09:18 pm
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I was caught unawares in the background of photos taken yesterday after the game, and I was so amused by the exhaustion evident in my position and expression that it had to become an icon.

(I was revived with cake and a drink shortly after this was taken.)

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It took me a year to drag this fic out of the scorched earth that certain parts of my brain have been since my Epic Psychiatric Misadventures, I think it's genuinely one of the better things I've written, and I am very proud of it.

a word you've never understood on AO3 (Prophet by Sin Blaché and Helen Macdonald, M, Sunil Rao/Adam Rubenstein, 9K words)

Summary: He’s been starving for so long. He thinks he’s never not been starving.

Note: massive spoilers for canon, and probably won't make a lot of sense if you've not read it. I am aware this is niche.

Weekend at the sewing machine

May. 18th, 2025 07:02 pm
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Sewing is what I've mostly done this weekend. Yesterday, I got most of the bodice done and made a start on the sleeves, today I finished the sleeves and worked on the skirt. The next step is to stitch the gather lines and start attaching the bodice to the skirt. The collar took some fumbling around yesterday but seemed to fall into place eventually. Today's pieces were more straightforward. Today's problem was thread. I realised soon enough I would run out at some point. So I went and rooted through my sewing box and found a bit more of the right shade. That was just a momentary help though and I had to go out to get some more in the afternoon if I wanted to continue. Even so, by the time I finished for the day, I knew I'd still need more to complete the dress. But with a busy week ahead and plans for the next weekend, I'll have time to go shopping before I'll have time to continue.

Five things make a week

May. 18th, 2025 03:22 pm
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Today is cold and grey, and if we had any thoughts about going out, they have vanished.

Last Sunday, though, last Sunday was glorious, and we visited Crook Hall
The person who checked our passes boasted of the tree peony (a huge bloom, rather blotched and blowsy) and the Himalayan poppy (just the one, but they are very proud of it because apparently it is quite hard to get them to bloom). I was more impressed by a fine cluster of wild garlic (which has an apologetic sign in it: This garden in the process of remodelling - oh, well). Randomly, my favourite picture was of some lingering blossom:

Blossom


There is a new sculpture of a toad, to replace the old wooden one, which was rotting, and has been put somewhere he can rot peacefully and productively; the new, metal toad is, inevitably, by Graeme Hopper. There is a moorhen on the pool. And there is a new second-hand bookshop, but I didn't buy anything (though I did photograph a copy of Pride and Prejudice for the previous post).


'Twas on a Wednesday morning
The electrician plumber came
We now have a fully flushing toilet in the upstairs bathroom. Just in time, because -


- we had a house guest for the end of the week:
Frances's three children, whose homes are scattered across the country, came to Durham to finalise her funeral arrangements, and make a start on clearing her house (in which they had lived as children). Their initial intention was for all three of them to stay at the house, but it would be a squeeze, especially since (and I find this rather sweet, both irrational and entirely understandable) no-one wanted to sleep in their mother's bed. So [personal profile] durham_rambler suggested to L. (middle 'child', with whom he maintains contact on - Bluesky, I think) that he should stay with us. Which worked very well: a practical, rather than a social, visit, but with some time for conversation, those peculiar conversations you have at these times with people who have known you not terribly well for all their lives...


Thursday evening, a civic event:
[personal profile] durham_rambler was invited, as a Parish Councillor, to the opening of 'Two Tales', a pop-up outpost of Seven Stories, the national centre for children's books in Newcastle. One of the many empty units in the shopping centre has been repurposed into a bookshop cum café cum events/ outreach venue: not the aspect of Seven Stories that most interests me, but surely a good thing nonetheless. The gathering was more civic than literary: no conversations about children's books, more (still) about the local elections. [personal profile] durham_rambler commiserated with one unsuccessful Labour candidate: "Sorry you weren't elected - " "I'm not!" was the reply, and I see his point. I almost left without buying a book (which would have been rude); we were already outside when I spotted in the window a supply of a book about illustrations in the Seven Stories collection, and had to go back in again.


Saturday was Eurovision!
But I have run out of time, so that'll have to wait...

Emily Tesh: The Incandescent

May. 18th, 2025 11:00 am
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The second Tesh novel in a couple of weeks for me, thanks to friendly comments pointing out a new one was about to be published. This one in a completely different genre: magical school story with some horror mixed in instead of military space opera with some dystopia. Unusually and refreshingly for any type of school story, our heroine and central character is one of the teachers, and so is most of the supporting cast. There are four students who are important to the plot in the way teachers are in other boarding school stories - from Enid Blyton to Harry Potter - , which is to say, you get to know them, but strictly from the outside, they are plot relevant, but the narrative emphasis is strictly on the teacher side of things, not just in terms of our central character but also the main supporting characters.

Since Dr. Walden (first name Sapphire which is her parents‘ fault; friends refer to her as „Saffy“, but the narration and her own pov call her „Walden“ almost through the entire novel) is near forty and a determined bisexual workoholic, the difference to the Young Adult tone with which many a boarding school story usually arrives is there from the start. At first, the novel seems to go for wry comedy as we get to know the characters and the setting; the rules for this particular universe are established: An AU in which magical abilities are publically known and a thing; the problem is that teenagers with their magical abilities running wild and them not yet able to really control them are the favourite snacks of demons, both, depending on the size of the demon, in the literal sense or via possession or for the smallest imps just via annoyance by them possessing machines. I mean, we all knew that about printing machines and photo copiers in offices, right? Anyway, hence the need for schools simultanously teaching the kids how to control their abilities and doing their best to save them from ending up as snacks. This can be difficult because teenagers by definition think THEY are invulnerable and able to conjur up the cool demons, which is why in addition to the regular teachers like Walden, there are also „Marshals“, i.e. magical cops who mostly don‘t have an academic background but excell at demon fighting. We open the novel with Walden meeting the latest Marshal, Laura Kenning; there is mutual resentment and UST from the get go.

It comes more and more evident that larger demons are no laughing matter and really incredibly dangerous, though the black humor never leaves the narrative tone, either. Walden, for all that she oozes competence and cool in the present, had A Tragic Event in her own youth; basically she‘s female Rupert Giles if you‘re a Buffy the Vampire Slayer (and/or female John Constantine from Hellblazer, if John/Joanna had gone into teaching after the event in question), and while she is really as good as she thinks she is in all things magic, she also is slightly hubristic because of it, and that becomes highly plot relevant. I also appreciate that she has a genuine passion for teaching. As for the demons, they‘re gratifyingly complicated and alien; leaving the comic relief ones you find in printers (I KNEW IT) aside, the reader is presented with two important ones, and while the first one‘s goals are obvious and very Exorcist the tv show, what the other one is up to is infinitely trickier and yet the hints are there early on.

By now, I‘ve found out that there were some complaints re: Some Desperate Glory regarding the characters being queer but their romances only seen in glimpses, so to speak, which I thought was appropriate for the characters and the story of Some Desperate Glory (plus it invites fanfic), but I take the general point, so let me say that Walden‘s romantic and sexual life gets more narrative room, plus Walden/Laura is central to the plot. Also, the novel avoids two extremes I find annoying which some media take with bisexual characters: either a character is declared to be bi but we only ever see him or her with one gender of romantic partner, i.e. the opposite if it‘s a more main stream show (looking at you, Da Vinci‘s Demons) or the same (Torchwood fanfiction; the show itself gave more screen time to Jack‘s same sex romances, but we did get some examples of him and women as well); OR there is the cliché of the evil, disturbed or at least amoral bisexual, unable to commit and breaking hearts that way (famously Basic Instinct, but also the novels of an author I otherwise really like, Sosan Howatch). By contrast, both in the past and in the present Walden is someone the reader sees to be attracted to people of both genders, we‘re not just told that in theory she is, and she‘s emotionally involved in the relationships in question (with one exception). (While at the same time being a sensible force for good. )That said, it is rather clear which relationship in the present we‘re meant to root for. *g*

In conclusion, this was another highly readable and very captivating novel by this author, who I hope will gift us with many more in the years to comem.

Multiple hockey milestones yesterday

May. 18th, 2025 08:32 am
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Yesterday Kodiaks B played Solent Valkyries in Gosport. I hired a 9-seater and drove a bunch of the team down and back, and in between played a game, captaining the team for the second time. For some reason I am tired this morning.

Some milestones:

  • It was the first win for Kodiaks B, certainly this season and I think ever.
  • I got my first points for Kodiaks, ever: a goal and an assist, doubling my lifetime points. (1 assist for Women's Blues two seasons ago, 1 assist for Warbirds late last year)
  • That's my first recorded goal ever (I scored my first goal ever in a scrimmage at the end of last year)
  • For extra hilarity I did not actually score this goal, it was an own goal credited to me because I was the last Kodiaks player to touch the puck before the poor Valkyrie kicked it in her own net. A point is a point and I'll claim it. But I have yet to actually score a goal in a formal game.

Also at one point my stick blade got stuck in the boards at the side of the rink when I was digging for a puck. I couldn't get it out, so I went skating hard back to the bench yelling for a change and instead one of my teammates passed me her stick, which I grabbed at speed and went straight back into play. So dramatic! So much fun!

(the ref retrieved my stick and returned it to the bench and I got it back when I changed with my line; it is fine from its adventure)

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I am spending much of my time very flat, mostly reading, sleeping enough to dream, not necessarily enough to think, but in the usual fashion managed to take a walk around my neighborhood late in the afternoon.

When one world ends, the other worlds keep spinning. )

I was so entertained by the avowedly partisan entry on Kay in Phyllis Ann Karr's The Arthurian Companion (1983/97) that it finally occurred to me to try to track down some of her Arthurian short stories and thus encountered a canonical description of her favorite churlish knight in "The Coming of the Light" (1992): "a sharpfaced dark man, also with hair more silver than black, who sat far to one side but spoke with more authority than his distance from the king would have suggested." Yes, look, I've loved his terrible personality for ages, I didn't need confirmation he has an interesting face, too.

After several years of not getting around to it, I really enjoyed C. M. Waggoner's The Ruthless Lady's Guide to Wizardry (2021) just in time to hear Lucy Dacus' "Best Guess" (2025) on WERS and get the song fixed in my head to its plot: If I were a gambling man, and I am, you'd be my best bet.

[personal profile] selkie sent me waves in the Drake Passage.

Lovely weather

May. 17th, 2025 10:45 pm
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I got up at 9 and had breakfast and coffee. The milk is starting to turn, but not so bad I couldn't use it, and weirdly, my sugar bowl of stevia had turned rock hard. I washed out the sugar bowl with hot water to dissolve it, and used some directly from the package, which was fine. Then I showered and dressed and left for my Al-anon meeting.

I got to the meeting well on time, and it was quite good. I ended up chairing. After the meeting I got a ride to the diner, and we had a good time.

The weather had turned very nice by then, so in order to save money I took the bus home. When I got here I went to the Starsky and Hutch chat, and we talked for a very long time today, longer than usual, til about 7:30.

At 8:00 I Teamed the FWiB< and we talked til 9:00.

Then I had dinner, and called [personal profile] mashfanficchick. There is a Greek festival at St. Nicholas church, and I'm going tomorrow. Ze is probably going with me, which will be nice.

Also, and more seriously, while my phone was off during the meeting, I got a message from Robyn at the funeral home. The ashes are ready to be picked up, and the copies of the death certificate. She said I could either pick them up or have them dropped off, so I Facebook messaged her to arrange that. I just heard from her now, I want to have them dropped off at [personal profile] mashfanficchick's place so I'm not alone when I get them.

So we'll see how that works out.

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. Robyn.

3. My meetings and the people there.

4. The Starsky and Hutch fandom.

5. Turned on my AC last night, it still works.

6. My pets.

The Friday Five on a Saturday

May. 17th, 2025 07:27 pm
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  1. You're holding a dinner party and can invite three famous people from the past or present; who would they be?

    I never understood the appeal of this. I hardly get to see my friends and family. I would rather invite them to dinner than a group of people I don't know. That just sounds exhausting.

  2. You have the opportunity to question someone about something you've always wanted to know and receive a truthful answer; what would your question be?

    No no no. In my experience, if someone is holding back on telling you a truth, it's because it is not going to make you feel happy. I'll pass.

  3. If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be?

    My workload. See answer to Q1.

  4. If you could save other people's lives by completing an act that would lead to your own death, would you do it?

    As ever, answers depend on the context. If we are talking about an overstuffed inflatable raft full of vulnerable children floundering in the English Channel, then unequivocally yes. If we are talking about an autocratic dictator and his henchmen, then absolutely not.

  5. Would you commit murder if you knew that you could get away with it?

    No.

Books! Some Books!

May. 17th, 2025 02:27 pm
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The Woods All Black by Lee Mandelo - So this is a horror-ish novella set in 1920s Appalachia where a trans man (not the language used, obvs) working as a sort of roaming nurse comes to a small town that's suffering a fit of religious mania that's manifesting both as hostility to outsiders and the town collectively trying to take their local gender nonconforming teenager in hand. And it was working for me as a tale of 'we have always been here/some places can be basically safe to be a weird kid in right up until they aren't.'

Then it took a turn towards rape revenge fantasy that I wasn't wholly onboard with, then a sharp right turn towards graphic monsterfucking.

So, uh, that was a bit weird.

Hot Summer by Elle Everhart - I don't like reality television. I don't think it's bad, I don't think liking it is some kind moral failing, it's just by and large not my cup of tea. That said, there is one reality show that I do think should not exist and no one should watch, and that's Love Island, a show that has a death toll.

So if you can forget that this is a lightly fictionalised version of Love Island (something I only could intermittently) and if you are lucky enough to have never seen the show and so not get hungup on 'Hang on, there's no way there would ever be a queer love story on Heterosexuality: The Show' then this is a cute enough contemporary f/f romance.

A Libertarian Walks into a Bear: The Utopian Plot to Liberate an American Town by Matthew Hongoltz-Hetling - Obviously I read this because of the title, and the actual book doesn't quite live up to it, but this tale of a bunch of libertarians who move to a small town to prove that their ideas can work, and run smack bang into that fact that, like most things government does, there were bear control laws in place for a reason was pretty compelling, especially now that *gestures at everything*

Shroud by Adrian Tchaikovsky - Hostile Alien Planets and Why You Should Not Get Trapped On Them. My new favourite Tchaikovsky; yes, more than the spider planet one, yes, more than the one narrated by the Good Boy. It's just that good.

I got outbid on some fancy Tchaikovsky special editions in the genre creators for trans rights auction, which was fine, good cause and all. But I saw Tchaikovsky talking about the auction on bluesky, and he said something like if you'd read his work he hoped you'd already know he was a a supporter of trans rights, and, like, it's always good to get confirmation that someone you're a fan of is a good egg, but I have read thousands of pages of that man's work and all I could have said about him with any certainty is 'I think that man likes bugs.'

Private Rites by Julia Armfield - 'King Lear and his dyke daughters.' I'm not paraphrasing, that's a line in the book. I really enjoyed Armfield's novella Our Wives Under the Sea, and her first full length novel has a lot of the same themes, to whit, queer women being sad while soaking wet. It is longer, so, um, there's that.

Doctor Who ? 05 + 06

May. 17th, 2025 02:52 pm
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I lilked last week's episode, but didn't find myself able to say much about it.

Spoilers are into myths, but evidently not Klingon myths, because.... )

Now, on to this week's contribution. Here I must confess I have not watched a single Eurovision contest, not even the one time in my living memory that Germany won (though I do remember the winner, Nicole, as her "Ein bisschen Frieden" was played everywhere all those decades ago). So I had to google Ryan Clark whom based on Belinda's reaction I judged to be a real person doing a DW cameo, ditto for Graham Norton. But thankfully, even a complete ESC ignoramus like myself got captivated by the episode, even before You Know Who graced the screen. Let alone the MCU like tag scene after the first few credits which was a ZOMG! capper on a ZOMG! episode.

Spoilers are finally having some revelations at hand )

murderbot 1&2

May. 17th, 2025 10:05 am
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I don't have a TV or any fancy subscriptions, but fortunately my friend A does, and since I was the one who introduced her to the Murderbot books a few years back, she took pity on me and invited me over to watch the new show with her )

So far, pretty fun, but also somehow a little disappointing? But really I did expect that.

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